I often ask people what is stopping them going after their big business or life dream? I typically get one of 3 answers:
- I don’t know where to start
- I don’t think I can do it
- Or a slightly more disguised version of the above: I don’t have the time, money, energy, etc.
If you read my blog, you more than likely have a vision. Are you well on your way to realising it? Or are you stuck? If you are stuck, which of the above numbers are you stuck on?
Number 1, is kind of a mechanical thing, you just need a plan. If that is your issue, try my eBook How to Plan.
Numbers 2 and 3 are far more complex and in my view the real reason people get stuck: a lack of confidence.
Here are 3 things to think about if you feel stuck and the issue isn’t planning.
1. The best way to become unstuck and move forward is to start
Yes, you read right. Even if you are not ready, not sure exactly what step to take, the best way to move forward is to make a start and take action. Even if that just means sitting down and figuring out the first step.
All of us, feel uncomfortable even fearful, when trying something new. Some of us, just pretend we don’t. Believe me, every time I step out of my comfort zone, I feel out of sorts.
In fact, it’s happening right now. I’m learning hypnotherapy and I have to spend part of the course, practicing with other students. As I drove home tonight, the ‘doubts’ got a great big hold of me.
“What are you doing?”, “What makes you think you can do this?”, “You’re speech doesn’t flow, you have an accent when you speak, blah blah blah”.
2. The only thing you can do when presented with something new, is keep trying.
So I got home and I practiced on my husband. No, the words didn’t flow perfectly and no, I didn’t think it was perfect and yes, I have a French accent. But yes, he had a relaxing time, he kept his eyes closed the whole time and he told me he enjoyed it.
I was actually nervous practicing on him because I wanted to do well. So bam! Double whammy. Nerves and trying to impress. I jumped right in when I had doubts and practiced on someone whose opinion I respect.
I guess I also know that he will encourage me but if I’d been terrible he would have told me. Actually, after the session, I felt really proud that I’d tried.
That felt good!!
3. Whether you think you can, or you think you can’t–you’re right. Henry Ford.
Yes, that’s right, you decide. You decide whether you can do something or whether you can’t do something. You decide every day in what you say and think in fact.
If I keep walking around telling myself that I’ll never be good at hypnotherapy, chances are that’s what will happen.
Instead, I think: ‘I can be good, all I have to do is practice and practice until I feel more confident’ and I’m looking for clues. Yesterday, when I hypnotised the student I was working with, he could not stop blinking as I instructed him to blink. When I hypnotised my little boy, he became really relaxed and flopped to the side a bit.
I choose to focus on those things, the ones that are saying ‘yes, this is working, you can do this!’
What do you focus on when you think of your dream?